Friendly to Senior
Care · Conversation
お子さんはどちらにお住まいですか？よく会いに来られますか？ — Where do your children live? Do they come to visit often? (Care · Conversation, Friendly to Senior, JLPT N4)
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お子さんはどちらにお住まいですか？よく会いに来られますか？
おこさんはどちらにおすみですか？よくあいにこられますか？
Where do your children live? Do they come to visit often?
Romaji: O-ko-san wa dochira ni o-sumi desu ka? Yoku ai ni korare masu ka? / Reply Romaji: Musume ga Osaka ni ite, tsukini ichido kite kuremasu.
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娘が大阪にいて、月に一度来てくれます。
むすめがおおさかにいて、つきにいちどきてくれます。
My daughter is in Osaka and comes to visit once a month.
Gesture & etiquette
Listen with warm interest and follow up naturally: 'それは楽しみですね' (That must be something to look forward to). If they share that visits are infrequent, shift toward positive topics — '次に会ったらどんな話をしますか？' (What will you talk about next time you meet?).
Asking about children and family visits opens a rich conversation topic for seniors. Family connections are a central source of meaning for many elderly Japanese. If a senior's family visits rarely, respond with empathy rather than pity — focus on the warmth they feel when family does visit.